Switched-On Magazine

When it comes to their appearances, most people couldn't care less how much they reveal themselves, or how much, as long as they're happy with who they see in the mirror. Yet, what about the people that see them, and are just as intrigued? It's important to be aware of who's aware of your body. April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Sexual assault does happen, and is an unwarranted, common crime. In fact, although women are frequent targets, men are susceptible to sexual assault as well, in same sex instances and otherwise. Whether it's colored in extreme cases as rape, violation, forcing, or any other term that attempts to downplay the severity, sexual assault is a distasteful act that can follow someone for years. However, it doesn't have to be a shameful experience. 

The shame in sexual assault lies on the attacker, not the victim: if something happens to you, it's okay to speak up, to speak out. I've seen it happen before, to a few of my close friends, a number which, though small, is definitely far from comforting. They become distant, unsure of what to say or do anymore, and any sense of safety seems long gone. Yet, what seems to be the most important aspect to understand is easily forgotten under all the distress: that it wasn't their fault. No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, and no one should be embarrassed to stand up for themselves in spite of it, during or after the act. The concept of sexual assault can vary from person to person, but what matters is that what you feel most comfortable with. Fondling, or even simply touching may be too much. There is such a thing as going too far; as for being outspoken in such a situation, not so much. 

Although it may seem trite, there really is safety in numbers. Friends shouldn't let friends travel alone, in any instance that may turn out to be dangerous; even more, friends shouldn't let friends be alone, especially in a time of need that can be as severe as this one. Sexual assault takes time to get over, but it also requires a support group, as well as contact with the proper people. Just know that, although an incident of this severity should be reported to the police, the National Runaway Switchboard is also available to become your support network as well, and work out any issues that may be had in confidence.